Get My Permission Before You Brainwash My Kids

Here’s the bullshit my daughter has to color and bring home from school (with my edits).

What I’m wondering is if I have to sign papers to have the school counselor talk about sex to her, why don’t I have to sign my permission before she exposes her to this? Dietary choices are at least as important as sexual ones. At least, and I would argue more.

My son (homeschooled): Why is the ‘grains’ part as big as the ‘vegetables’?

Me: Because the cereal companies fund the political process, honey.

You’re Probably a Liar – Open Relationships vs Infidelity

Interesting poll on opinions about open relationships this week. The poll defines “open relationship” as:

…one where both people agree to be non-monogamous. It can include each person having other sexual partners, or the couple inviting other people to engage in sexual activities with both partners in the relationship.

The results are pretty much what you might expect and vary little by race or political party. Gender differences and age differences show greater variety in all responses.

Take a look at this:

Would you ever consider being in an open relationship?

Asked of those willing to answer questions about sex
Yes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .14%
(20% men, 7% women) (15% 18-29,  14% 30-44)
No . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .72%
(63% men, 81% women) (59% 18-29,  71% 30-44)
Not sure . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .13%
(15% men, 11% women) (24% 18-29,  12% 30-44)
Prefer not to say . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2%

The truly interesting thing to me is this: 72% said they would never consider being in an open relationship. Compare that to the estimated rates of infidelity (which I realize are highly problematic to get accurate data) that may range as high or greater than 50%.

What these different numbers suggest to me is that not wanting an “open relationship” is not necessarily about morality or tradition (a principle motive) but about being able to have other sex partners while preventing your spouse from having them, too, due to the lie that you are being monogamous and so must they (a fear motive). An open relationship is about consensual, and perhaps mutual, non-monogamy.

Of course, the numbers, as with most opinions vs behavior polls, is aspirational.

Open Relationships YouGov/Huffington Post Poll

 

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